I've been listening to Matthew West's song "Restored" which is a song about restoring love within a marriage, and he says: "Cause I believe that love can be restored, if we take a little less this time and give a little more" and I think that this piece of advice is beautiful. It's incredibly true in relationships but I also think it is simplest way to a more meaningful life in general.

We are so obsessed with ourselves. How often do we do things for other people out of complete selflessness? How often do we do something for people that can give us nothing? It's easy to do something for someone when you know that you will receive something in return, but it's not so easy when you know you will receive nothing. Good for you that you gave a homeless person some cash - money is easy to give.


Simon Sinek is incredible and this talk is so amazing. The main point of the talk is that leadership is not a rank - it's not a position. It's a decision - a choice you make every day to put other people first. If you put other people first and you can make them feel safe, then you become a leader.

I really love this concept. I really feel Simon Sinek's anger toward the leaders that sacrifice their employees for their own benefit. Putting other people before yourself, to serve people, should be what drives you. I titled the post Leadership Comes at a "Cost" mainly because Simon Sinek says it in his talk.  But I put Cost in quotation marks because putting other people first, making that sacrifice, shouldn't feel like a "cost." You should put other people first because you want to put other people first. And if you want to do something then it isn't a sacrifice.

Anyway, watch the video if you have 45 minutes to spare and you're interested in leadership and/or human behavior.

Have you ever considered how big of an impact you can have on a stranger's life on a daily basis? Drew Dudley tells a story about how he greatly impacted someone's life without realizing it, and he encourages us to think about how we impact lives everyday. 

The point that I want to make with this video is that you can't simply make a decision to change someone's life. But every morning you can make a conscious decision to be the best person that you can possibly be, be generous with your positivity, and have faith that you, even though you may feel insignificant at times, make the world a little better over, and over, and over again. 

Who are "they" to say whether or not you're successful? What if your business fails, but because of this failure you grow as a person, learn from your mistakes and come out stronger in the end? Then wasn't that business actually a success? Maybe it wasn't a success according to what society deems as a successful business, but why do our personal criteria for success have to be aligned with society's? They don't. 


"Not much happens without a dream. And for something great to happen, there must be a great dream. Behind every great achievement is a dreamer of great dreams. Much more than a dreamer is required to bring it to reality; but the dream must be there first." - Robert Greenleaf, 1991.

I think this quote from "The Servant as Leader" is a beautiful piece of advice and carries a profound life lesson. In order for something great to happen one must first dream, but it takes more than merely a dreamer to make those great things happen - it takes a true leader. This concept goes beyond leadership, but I think it's an important part in being an authentic leader so I'll share my opinion on the subject. 


There's a general tendency to believe that doubting yourself is a bad thing and something that should be overcome or completely avoided. Of course there are different levels of self-doubt, and there is certainly a self-destructive level of self-doubt where a person will never accomplish anything because of being stuck in a vicious cycle of what-ifs. However, a little self-doubt has never hurt anyone and in leadership self-doubt is immensely important. 


A picture of a Taco Bell employee licking a stack of taco shells recently started circulating on social media as the picture was posted on the fast food chain's Facebook page. Now customers are raging on the company's Facebook page and their Twitter account even though it's unsure whether or not these taco shells were actually served to people.

I'm not going to talk about why this will go viral (because it already did, and it'll only get worse for Taco Bell), but I'm going to talk about how and if you can prevent this from happening in the first place.


We have been bombarded with gurus and marketing professors telling us that corporate social responsibility is the big thing nowadays. If you want loyal customers then having a solid CSR policy is the way to go, they say. But times have changed and CSR doesn't work the same way as it did 10 years ago. CSR as a value generator is dead and CSR as a value keeper is the new reality, meaning that CSR doesn't add any extra value to your business compared to your competitors, but it sure as hell takes away a lot if you don't do it. Here are three reasons that CSR as a value generator is dead.

1. It's perceived as marketing
People are not stupid. They know that if you make a promotion telling them that you are socially responsible then it's still just promotion. Have a CSR policy, but don't promote it like it's your only competitive advantage. Engage in socially responsible activities because it's the right thing to do, not because it looks good. When CSR is attached to the marketing department to enhance the reputation of the company then it will come off as advertising.


In today's society it's generally unacceptable to fail; losing a business, losing a sports game or working on any project or start-up that doesn't quite turn out the way that it was meant to. We should encourage failing more, as failing at anything will make you stronger as long as you remember to learn from it. Failing at something is inevitable but if you're prepared and you know that good things come from mistakes you can come back stronger and increase your chances of success the next time.

Being good at failing
Being good at failing entails a few things such as getting back up quickly by stopping feeling sorry for yourself, learning from the mistakes you make and failing small to limit risk. Combining these 3 steps you limit your risk of failing in the first place, get over the failure quickly so you become more productive and learn how to do things better through careful reflection.

1. Getting back up quickly
Imagine how unproductive a person can be if he doesn't move on after failing. The people that get things done in life are the people that quickly realize that they made a mistake and then move on to other projects. Barbara Corcoran from Shark Tank says this about entrepreneurs that get rejected: "The only difference between the superstars making the millions a year and the persons barely getting by is how long they feel sorry for themselves once they get hit." (Video here). I'm not saying that you shouldn't feel sorry for yourself but limit it to a reasonable timeframe and then move on and get productive.